Counselors Corner
Wednesday, 06 March 2013 14:39

A Valid Reason for Hope

Written by Pamela Boswell


In the counseling office we often encounter people with hopeless thoughts. As we face disappointments, losses, and fatigue in our day to day lives, we may occasionally lose sight of hope. It’s a miserable condition to be in, but one that “is common to man.” In Psalm 6:6 the writer said, “I am weary with my moaning; every night I flood my bed with tears; I drench my couch with my weeping.” Sounds wretched doesn’t it?

Friday, 08 February 2013 15:43

The Contentious “Man”

Written by Lou Priolo


The book of Proverbs identifies several types of individuals who are especially prone to mishandling conflict. (The common denominator in the life of these individuals is several Hebrew words generally rendered as strife or contention.) When an individual continually gives himself over to a particular sin, he eventually becomes bound by that sin. At some point the individual may rightly be categorized according to the name of the sin that he allowed to master him.  

Monday, 14 January 2013 16:59

Counseling from the Life of Joseph

Written by Brenda Payne


As a counselor, I often meet with troubled people. Sometimes, the difficulties they face are a result of their own sinful choices. In such cases it is necessary to call them to repentance and obedience.  But other times, the women I counsel are living uprightly yet facing misery at the hands of sinful people (or circumstances beyond their control). She may be a respectful and submissive wife whose husband is increasingly difficult to live with. She may be a godly single woman whose prospects for a husband are growing grim. Or, it could be a mom who has given her life to the biblical instruction of her children only to face a rebellious teenager. It is one thing to suffer as a result of our own sin, but what if we are “playing by the rules” and still suffer?  We tend to operate under the assumption that if we are “good” than God owes us: He will reward us with good or at least keep us from harm. How are we to view things when even in our obedience we are assaulted with misery and misfortune?

Wednesday, 10 October 2012 21:47

Advice for In-Law Relationships

Written by Pamela Boswell


Have you ever had a conflict with your mate because of the way that one of you was relating to your parents or in-laws?

Have either of you ever thought that your mate was more devoted to and concerned about his or her parents than about you?*

You are not alone.


Wednesday, 05 September 2012 20:45

The Role Deception Plays in Promoting Sin

Written by Brenda Payne

Sin is the ultimate cause of all the misery in our lives. Charles Spurgeon preached, “All manner of evils draw their bitterness from this fountain of wormwood and gall. If a man had every possession a mortal could desire, sin could turn every blessing into a curse. And, on the other hand, if a man had nothing for his inheritance but suffering and stood clear from all sin, his afflictions, his losses, his deprivations might each one be a gain to him. We ought not to pray so much against sickness, or trial, or temptation, or even against death itself, as against sin!”

Saturday, 04 August 2012 16:13

Connecting the Dots Between Sin and Misery

Written by Lou Priolo

People do not always appreciate the fact that the pain they experience is often due to acting or thinking in ways that are out of harmony with Scripture. As a Christian, therefore, you must understand the relationship between sin and misery.

Thursday, 05 July 2012 13:39

Daily Forgiving

Written by Pamela Boswell

Is there someone you know who makes your heart beat faster, your breath shorter, your throat tighter or your stomach more acidic every time you see or think of them? If so, there is a very good chance that you have been offended and have not granted that person forgiveness.

Wednesday, 06 June 2012 14:46

Practicing Healthy Self-Talk

Written by Doug Hudgins

Have you ever noticed how much you talk to yourself? Throughout the day, hundreds of internal impromptu monologues are performed on the stage of your mind. As you interpret the experiences of life, you do so largely with words. The content of this self-talk can be constructive and helpful, or very misleading and even destructive. Research shows that we can speak to ourselves at a rate of over 1,000 words per minute. At that rate, you can very quickly talk yourself into going in a positive or negative direction. In order to avoid out of control, confusing and possibly hurtful responses in life, and to live in a way that is pleasing to God, it is important to learn to think biblically and to talk to yourself rather than just listen to yourself.

Tuesday, 01 May 2012 17:49

Anorexia: Starving Yourself to Death

Written by Brenda Payne

“My name is Sally. I am fourteen years old. I used to be a “normal” teenager who loved to play sports, hang out with friends, and listen to music. Recently, I have become obsessed with the fear of getting fat. I live in constant dread of huge hips, thick thighs, and a saggy stomach. While I don’t really want to starve myself, I see no other way to reach my ideal body weight than to regulate calories and exercise vigorously. I am trapped and I don’t know how to stop the cycle. Most of the time I don’t even want to.”

Saturday, 07 April 2012 10:52

A Word to Pastors

Written by Lou Priolo

I am very grateful to the many Montgomery area pastors and church leaders who have trusted my colleagues and me at the Center for Biblical Counseling to assist them with shepherding their flock for the past 15 years. I write what follows out of a heart of gratitude and love for my brothers in Christ who have also been found faithful by Him and placed into the Gospel ministry.

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