Monday, 07 November 2016 08:12

Hearing the Love

Written by  Saralu (Sam) Belkofer
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1 Corinthians, Chapter 13

Verse 1: “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal…”

Verses 4, 5, and 6: “… Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth…”


Since the Thanksgiving season is here, I had planned to write about choosing to be thankful. I believe that it is important and possible for us all to make a conscious effort and decision to actually choose to be thankful. By this I mean that rather than waiting to feel our blessings and being thankful to God, we become proactive and work to see and acknowledge our blessings before we feel blessed. As I see it, this helps us avoid a lot of negative feelings such as resentment, jealousy, anger, worry and unhappiness.


However, I have realized that I am not hearing “The Love”, and I don’t think that I am alone. So I chose the topic of hearing the love.  This seems to be a pressing matter in light of the presidential election in which our country is embroiled. Daily we are bombarded with angry, bitter, blaming words. They come from every direction and from numerous sources.  It is hard to escape them and hard to maintain the filters that should help us sort out words that we normally choose to avoid.


It almost seems that we have lost our compass regarding words and their meaning that are acceptable to us and those that are not.  We seem to be making excuses for unkind, judging, unforgiving, even hateful words.  We find ourselves reframing and interpreting these words to make them okay.  We dismiss the emotional and spiritual damage they create, and by doing so, we increase the damage to others and ourselves.


What if we use Paul’s letter to the church in Corinth as our compass? In Chapter 1:10, 11 and 12 Paul says in the New International Version of the Bible, “… I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought. My brothers and sisters, some … have informed me that there are quarrels among you…” Verse 20: “Where is the wise person? Where is the teacher of the law? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world?”


The angry, venomous, damaging words that are flowing around all of us from all sides are detrimental to the way that we see ourselves and see others. We do not have to agree regarding our political views, but we can be true to the direction in which our Christian compass has always directed us. That is toward Christ and Paul’s definition of Love.


1 Corinthians 13

Verses 4, 5 and 6 “… Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth…”


As Christians, this is the best of us. May we be united in this.


Saralu (Sam) Belkofer is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She is a 1969 graduate of Auburn University with a BA in Education and graduated from Georgia State University with an MA in Counseling in 1988. Prior to coming to The Samaritan Counseling Center, Sam counseled adults at Chemical Addictions Program from 1994 until 1999; Therapeutic Programs, Inc., where she worked with children and foster parents of children in need of therapeutic foster care; and at Helping Montgomery Families Initiative, sponsored by Ellen Brooks and the District Attorney’s office, assisting troubled children/youth in Montgomery Public Schools and their families; and as the Montgomery County Director of Adult Outpatient Services with Montgomery Area Mental Health Authority until November 2013. Sam counsels adolescents, young adults and adults, employing psychotherapy to gain insight into problems to develop needed strategies for life transitions, survivors of abuse and neglect, addictions, forgiveness, ADHD, anxiety and depression, issues of abandonment, attachment and development of life skills.



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