Wednesday, 15 June 2016 09:45

Healing From Father Wounds

Written by  Kemi Searcy
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I knew a beautiful Christian young woman who I will call Janet. Janet loved the Lord with all of her heart, and aspired to live the Christian life to the best of her ability. Unfortunately, she constantly fell into sexual promiscuity. In an attempt to try to help her, I discovered that she had a history of an immoral life style prior to her redemption. Now that she was a Christian, she still struggled with that bondage.


After much time, we finally arrived at the root cause of Janet’s problem.  Her promiscuous behavior was due to wounds from her father. This “Father Wound” had festered to contaminate her life.


You see, Janet’s mom and dad were never married. She dreamed about what her dad would be like. She had a stepfather but it wasn’t the same. At age 11, the situation changed when Janet’s mom told her that her dad was coming to visit.


Janet couldn’t believe it! But that wasn’t all. Her dad was going to take her to live with him. This was the best news ever! Janet packed her belongings with great joy. The day came when Dad showed up and took her with him. Janet now had someone she could call her very own daddy.    


After a few months, Janet’s dad left her with some friends of his to go join his “other family.” He promised to come back to take her with him, but he never returned. Janet was now living with people she did not know. She was required to cook, clean, and babysit for these strangers.


Can you image how this little girl must have felt? Janet cleaned keeping one eye on the door hoping her father would return. She was certain he planned to rescue her. Days turned into weeks, and weeks became months. Janet eventually made it back home to her mom, but the situation grew worse as Janet’s stepfather and other family members tried to rape her many times. Janet grew up and was finally able to leave the house.


Can you feel the pain of this eleven year old? Janet’s childhood hurt still caused her to struggle as an adult. Have you ever suffered similar ills? Have you been neglected or abandoned? Have you encountered rejection, abuse, or fear? These things always hurt, but they are worse when perpetrated from the very people that were responsible to protect you.


If you feel pain from your past, allow Jesus to apply the balm of Gilead to every father wound that you have received. Without this healing, you may be looking for love in all the wrong places.


Maybe your father was a responsible person, paid the bills, put food on the table, and made sure your material needs were met. But perhaps he was disconnected when it came to what you needed the most—matters of the heart.


Every girl desires her father’s affection. Our Creator designed us with the need for affection, love, and intimacy. When that craving is not satisfied legitimately, it often creates a vacuum and a void that is often leads to promiscuity.

Here are a few signs that you may have a father wound.


1. Promiscuity

2. Feelings of rejection

3. Lack of trust for men

4. Intimidation

5. Fear

6. Anger

7. Unforgiveness

8. Lack of confidence


If you have a father wound, here are some things that you can do to be healed by your heavenly Father.


1. Stop measuring God with the same measuring rod you use to measure your natural father.


2. Begin to see God as the Father He really is. If you let Him, He will father you. He will heal every wound sustained by your natural father.


3. Trust that God will never reject, abuse, or abandon you.


4. Pray to Him for healing.


Psalm 68:5-6 says: God is a Father to the fatherless, defender of widows, this is God, whose dwelling is holy. God places the lonely in families He sets the prisoners free and gives them joy.


I desire for you to let Jesus in! He will heal your every wound, restore, and fill every void in your soul with His presence and glory.




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