Wednesday, 02 December 2015 13:09

Esteeming Yourself: Seeing What God Sees

Written by  Pastor Kemi Searcy
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“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are your works, And that my soul knows very well.”
                           Psalm 139:14

A story is told about a kindergarten teacher who wanted to teach her class about self-esteem. The teacher asked that everyone who thought they were dummies to stand up. She waited a moment, no one stood, and the teacher was pleasantly surprised. Finally, a little boy stood up in the back of the room. The teacher asked, “Jimmy, do you really think you are a dummy?” Jimmy replied, “No, I don’t. I just didn’t want you to be standing there all by yourself.”

This story brings a smile to our faces, but we do face a similar question that was posed to those children. What do we think of ourselves? A healthy degree of self-care is never a selfish act; it is simply good stewardship of the most precious thing God has given the world: “You.” The Intelligent Designer crafted you with care and love, therefore belittling or denigrating oneself is an affront to His intelligence. Low self-esteem and lack of confidence has hindered many people from contributing to society, and thereby failing to fulfill the will of the Lord.

God permitted the Israelites to go spy out the Land of Canaan, their promised home, to see its fruitfulness, and to ready them for possession. Twelve men were sent, one from each tribe. Two came with a good report that the land was prosperous, while the other 10 brought an evil report of the land devouring its own inhabitants. The ten saw themselves as grasshoppers, and as a result, the rest of the Israelites then perceived themselves as powerless, puny insects. (See Deut. 1:22; Num. 13:1)
Wait a minute! These were the children of Israel, God’s chosen generation, His royal priesthood, His peculiar people. God had destroyed Egypt, the then superpower, and opened the Red Sea for them to walk on dry ground. What were they thinking? Though He had shown them many miracles, when they came up against giants, they failed to see how valuable they were to God. Instead, they became cowards who saw themselves as nothing.

Stop looking down on yourself, Sister!  Lift your chin high and realize you are wonderfully and fearfully made.  If you don’t feel good about yourself, no one will.


Six Indicators of Low Self-Esteem

a. Antisocial behavior
b. Depression
c. Eating Disorder
d. Anxiety
e. Low self-expectation
f. An unwillingness to pray


How to Increase Your Self-Esteem
“As a man thinks, so is he,” says Proverbs 23:7. Our thoughts, feelings, and opinions make up who we are. Therefore low self-esteem isn’t a permanent state. Our minds can be changed, depending on the way we think over time. We need to dwell on the word of God and the Holy Spirit, to help us see our worth through God’s perspective.  Here are some action points to consider:


If you had been the only sinner needing salvation, He would have come to die for you. He loves you that much. It took the price of the sinless blood of Jesus Christ to atone for our sins. How can we look at ourselves as nothing?

Concentrating on solutions and positive thinking is the best thing you can do for your esteem. If you are overweight, instead of looking down on yourself, do what you can to lose the weight. If you are plagued with financial troubles, find a better job, start a business, or go back to school. Connect with people who are already where you want to be. Use every means available: Internet, books, videos, etc.


It could have been spousal abuse or parental neglect that first wrecked your esteem. If so, ask the Lord to help you to forgive, let go of the hurt, and move on.


Figure out why you see yourself the way you do, then change your self-perception. Ask God to highlight Scripture verses that speak to what your image truly is. Use your mental skills to re-imagine yourself.


How often do you stop to list the things for which you are thankful? The Israelites practiced thankfulness in their many festivals, recounting what God had done for them.
This is important because God knows that sometimes we will be afflicted, hindered, or come against difficult situations. At that point we need to be reminded of how good He has been to us in previous situations.
Keeping a grateful attitude will awaken faith in your heart and help you esteem yourself in the best way possible, because YOU ARE THE BEST!


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