Tuesday, 07 July 2015 15:52

Stand Firm in Love

Written by  Mike and Lisa Conn
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We teach 12-17 workshops every five weeks for Squadron Officer School students and their spouses which focus on building relationships and gaining tools to keep their marriages and families strong as they face and overcome the unique challenges of military life.  Three key areas of instruction are:  (1) Putting on the Armor of God, (2) Keeping love tanks full, and (3) building “got your back” Christian relationships. 


(1)  Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.  Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. (Ephesians 6:11, 14) 

“The armor of God” described in Ephesians 6 signifies the Christian soldier putting on his armor and standing firm against the enemy, the devil.  This is something we need to do by reading God’s word daily and bringing our needs and concerns to Him through prayer.  We can help our spouse and children put on their armor by encouraging them to do the same as well as by praying specifically for them.  One of our daughters recently showed me her prayer journal where she had highlighted each member of the family with special scriptures chosen just for that person, according to their needs.  She prays for us every day.  She is standing with us and helping us put on the armor.  We need to encourage our brothers and sisters in Christ to daily put on the full armor by maintaining a close relationship with Jesus.  How are you helping others keep their armor on each day?



(2)  And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.  But the greatest of these is love.  (1 Corinthians 13:13)  The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.  (Galatians 5:6)

To stand firm in love, we must have the foundation upon which to stand: faith in Christ and in His Word.  We cannot fight the devil’s schemes without that relationship.  Know your spouse’s and children’s love languages and learn to speak them, showing your love to them in ways they understand.  As seen in Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: Military Edition, the languages are:


      #1 - Words of Affirmation

      #2 - Quality Time

      #3 - Receiving Gifts

      #4 - Acts of Service

      #5 - Physical Touch


Based on focusing on our ministry to hundreds of military couples each year, Mike believes that most service member’s primary love language is “Acts of Service” followed by “Words of Affirmation.”  Mike read once that at the Battle of Waterloo, Napoleon was reported to have said that he could have won the battle if he had one more case of medals--a physical form of “Words of Affirmation.”  Do you know your love language?  Do you know that of your spouse, your children, parents and in-laws?  Can you apply that knowledge to help keep their love tanks full so they can better face and overcome the challenges of life? 



(3)  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.  (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

The cord of three strands can be husband, wife and God or it can consist of being strengthened by other family members or Christian friends.  We can survive with just ourselves and God--prisoners of war have--many for years.  But Christ always focused on “2 by 2” as seen in Luke 10.  Who has your back?  Who is on your team and do they have their armor on? 


Put your armor on each day and stand firm!  Keep the love tanks of those you love full and focus on building your family team to be strong in Christ.  As Paul said in Galatians 5:1, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.  Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”





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