Friday, 01 August 2014 12:55

How Did You Get So Much Bigger Than Me?

Written by  Kim Hendrix
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Luke 2:49-52: “Why were you searching for me?” he asked.  “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?”  But they did not understand what he was saying to them.  Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them.  But his mother treasured all these things in her heart.  And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.


I understand Mary.  At this very moment, the mother of our Lord and Savior said, “How did you get so much bigger than me?” 


She and Joseph were like any other parents--worried for their son!  Where in the world are you, Son?  How could you not call or at least text and let us know? (Okay that’s us today, but you know what I mean.)   You’re only 12 years old—where are you?


My Bible commentary puts it this way: “Mary was looking for a boy, not the young man who was in the temple astounding the religious leaders with his questions and wisdom…It is both sweet and painful to see our children as adults.”


Mary knew she had a special son—the Messiah.  But in the heart of parenting she was thinking about the little boy she had been nurturing, so when his wisdom and maturity suddenly surfaced, even she was taken aback and blessed. (“..his mother treasured all these things in her heart.”)



Proverbs 20:11: “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.”



As the mother of a 14-year-old daughter, I find myself having a similar conversation albeit to myself most of the time.  When friends and situations become difficult I may see one way out while my daughter takes a higher road.  I may think avoidance is best while she chooses to love and reach out even when the likelihood of getting hurt is very present.  How did you get so much bigger than me?


It’s interesting to note that most thriving churches today are keeping things simple—focusing on small groups and worship.  When you think about a teenager’s faith, it’s usually pretty simple too—involving a life group (small group) and worship.  They’re not involved in too many ministries, or spending their time debating which denomination does things right—they’re just focusing on loving each other and loving Jesus.  In the process of keeping things simple, they are blessed with great strength. 



Proverbs 22:6: “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn form it.”



Couple a child’s simplicity with instruction from parents and youth leaders, and we have reason to have great hope in our younger generation.  Don’t get exhausted parents in teaching your children the way; don’t give into peer pressure or decide you just want to be your child’s friend because it’s easier; don’t ever think your efforts won’t pay off. 


Sure there will be stumbles and mistakes, but every now and then God gives us a glimpse of who our children are meant to be in Him.  If your teen isn’t in a small group, search out a life group through your church or start one in your home.  Meet weekly and share in each other’s lives, pray for one another and talk through the tension of being a teen in today’s world.  Make sure your children get the opportunity to worship. Take them to church and youth group activities, find a camp that focuses on fun and growing in Christ.  In other words live out:



Deuteronomy 11:19: “Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”



Over the years I’ve often been told, “Everything doesn’t have to be a teachable moment, Mommy!”  What can seem annoying to them today just may be sinking in.  I heard the founder of the Big Oak Ranch, John Croyle, say,  “Parenting is like having a suitcase and you have 18 years to pack it.”


Keep packing mom, dad and youth leaders and keep your eyes open for those treasured moments when you find yourself saying, “How did you get so much bigger than me?”



Dear Heavenly Father,

We love you so.  We know parenting is a privilege and one we are incapable of doing well without your constant leadership.  May we stay focused on the main thing, loving well.  Thank you for glimpses of all you have planned for our children and please hold them in your loving, accepting and forgiving arms.  In the mighty name of your son, Jesus Christ, we pray, Amen.





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