Sunday, 19 August 2018 15:07

Being a Godly Mother-in-law

Written by  Pastor Kemi Searcy
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As I reminisce on the goodness of God, I cannot help but to thank him specifically for His unwavering love for me, my family and especially my loving husband. Without a doubt, I know my husband is who he is because of his mom’s Godly influence.


Please join me in saying “thank you” to the mothers who gave us our husbands. Our mother’s-in-law deserve our praise. I came across a poem that stood out to me:



 “You were the one who held his hand when his life had just began, the one who taught him everything, who raised such a loving son. You were the mother he turned to with his questions and his fears, the person who was always there to guide him through the years.


I am the one who took his hand to walk with him through life, the one you lovingly embraced, and welcomed as his wife. I am the one who is grateful now for the job that you have done, blessed with a wonderful husband, the man that you call ‘your son’.”



The Lord blessed me with an amazing mother-in-law, a woman who loved and feared the Lord. Even though she’s no longer with us on Earth, her matchless handiwork testifies of her sweet spirit, gentle demeanor, and relentless love and affection for her children.


As I sit pondering the life of Mildred Searcy, I am reminded of Ruth and her mother-in-law, Naomi. Their poignant story can be found beginning in the book of Ruth. This story begins with Naomi’s Jewish family consisting of a husband, wife, and two sons. The family moves from Israel to live in Moab because there was a famine in Israel. The boys grew up and married ladies from Moab. Later, Naomi’s husband and her two sons died, leaving their mother and their wives Ruth and Orpah in a bad financial situation. After the mourning period, Naomi heard news that the famine in Israel was over and her people had started prospering again. She decided to move back home to Israel.


When Naomi told her two daughters-in-law her plan to return home, they both decided to go with her. Naomi tried to dissuade them. She told the wives that their homes were in Moab. Moabites were idol worshipers with temples dedicated to many gods, where as Israel worshiped the only one, true God Jehovah, of whom the wives knew nothing. Since Naomi did not have any more sons for the women to marry, the future for them in Israel could be bleak with a culture that was foreign to them. She pleaded with them not to follow her. Orpah agreed, hugged and kissed her mother-in-law, and returned to her people.


But we read in verse 16 of chapter 1 that Ruth said to Naomi, “Entreat me not to leave you, or to turn back from following after you, for wherever you go, I will go, and wherever you lodge, I will lodge, your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried.”  Wow!


I have read this story dozens of times and it has never ceased to amaze me. The question I ask myself each time I read Ruth’s story is what type of relationship did Naomi and Ruth have prior to this event that caused the young woman to be so devoted to the older woman? Even though the Bible doesn’t explain Ruth’s actions, I truly believe that Naomi must have lived such an exemplary life before the young wife that it left an impression on Ruth so great that it altered the course of history.


There are so many types of mothers-in-law in this world. When it comes to their sons, many mothers-in-law don’t think any lady is good enough for them. The question I ask myself is, Kemi, what type of mother in-law are you going to be?



1. The Snob – The one with an elitist attitude, who looks down her nose at everyone, and criticizes everything.


2. The Entitled – The one who feels her daughter-in-law owes her something just because she’s the mama. She is going to call every hour on the hour and everything better stop to her beckoning call.


3. The Possessive – The one who is so possessive, no one will be happy living with her son.



My prayer is that I will be as Naomi – so kind, loving, and supportive – that the fragrance of my life will transform the life of my daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, no matter who they are or whatever their background.


Thank you, Mildred Searcy, for being my “mother in-love.” May I leave the same legacy as you have!




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